It, honestly, is about the only bulletprooof kink I have, and can make me love things I normally wouldn't, whether it goes both ways or not. It goes along with the guy who's so blatant in how much he adores the girl without realizing that he shows it.
I think we love it in one gender and hate it in the other because of this:
When the guy thinks it, it's usually because there's that element in canon, wether stated or implied. It indicates admiration and respect, and, frankly, we want someone to feel that way about us. However, there's never the feeling that he actually ISN'T good enough for her(even if he isn't) because it's made clear that his affection and commitment makes up for it.
When it's the girl thinking that, it's usually because the writer-rather a fan in fic or meta, or the original writer-really doesn't think she's good enough for him, and is either a necessary evil as a love interest, just in the way, etc.
Or maybe(I hope) better put:
With the guy having that feeling, there's the feeling of "rightness" because even if he isn't good enough,they're stillright for each other, in that interpretation at least. When it's the girl having that feeling, it's usually because of "Shipping/pairing for the sake of shipping/pairing" as opposed to something right for the characters.
It also has our gut reaction to the mass fandom "men are better than women."
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I think we love it in one gender and hate it in the other because of this:
When the guy thinks it, it's usually because there's that element in canon, wether stated or implied. It indicates admiration and respect, and, frankly, we want someone to feel that way about us. However, there's never the feeling that he actually ISN'T good enough for her(even if he isn't) because it's made clear that his affection and commitment makes up for it.
When it's the girl thinking that, it's usually because the writer-rather a fan in fic or meta, or the original writer-really doesn't think she's good enough for him, and is either a necessary evil as a love interest, just in the way, etc.
Or maybe(I hope) better put:
With the guy having that feeling, there's the feeling of "rightness" because even if he isn't good enough,they're stillright for each other, in that interpretation at least. When it's the girl having that feeling, it's usually because of "Shipping/pairing for the sake of shipping/pairing" as opposed to something right for the characters.
It also has our gut reaction to the mass fandom "men are better than women."