I think the argument went that slash was bad because it was about guy characters only, which makes it sexist and misogynistic. But femmeslash was good because it was all about the women controlling themselves without any men at all, which meant it was good and not sexist at all. Romance was basically defined as Harlequin romance, I think, or fluffy, sentimental romance. This person liked hardcore stuff and dysfunction and power imbalances and the occasional rape.

(Guys can actually rape each other without it being sexist, and girls can rape each other without it being sexist, so that's okay. Guy/girl rape or girl/guy rape is sexist either way.) And heterosexuality was bad because of a long history of abuse and oppression, and no one can write it without that seeping in. Apparently.