"I acknowledge that this is similar to behaviors I don't approve of, but it's okay because I've had bad experiences with misogynistic slashers". If that wasn't what you meant to say, I can accept that, but please take note that that is exactly how it came across.

This isn't what I meant to say at all, and I'm sorry that that is how it came across.

I'm sorry that you've experienced homophobia in the het community and I don't recall the details of the prior conversation or why I stopped replying but I do know that it's wasn't a deliberate slight or a way to ignore what you were saying.