Then this is a side topic, but there's the flipside - men who fantasize about raping/forcefully seducing in the same totally fantasy way that we're talking about women fantasizing about being raped. How do you feel about that / how do I feel about that? If we're going to absolve women's fantasies (so long as we bother to think about it instead of going "GOD THIS IS SO HAWT" & RAPEY) in this matter, then do we also absolve men their fantasies so long as it stays fantasy? After all, we as human beings feel enough shame about our sexual desires / should we add to it? Whatever your answer is here, would you feel the same way if I asked it about women who fantasize about raping, rather than being raped? Just questions for discussion if you want; I'm not entirely sure what my answers are to them anyway, it's just thoughts I've had on the subject; and really I'm getting off track here so I will wrap it up.
And yes, slash is something else to talk about. I have to wonder about the lack of the female body in porn written for women. I want to think about it as the straight female equivalent of the girl-on-girl porn that your average straight male wanks to: that if a woman is turned on by a guy, then two guys together is even better! and hey, there's no pussy in between them to distract from the hot guy-on-guy. That explanation being the gender flipped version of how I've heard guys explain their love of girl-on-girl. But then this explanation doesn't account for the misogyny that you see in a lot of slash.
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Then this is a side topic, but there's the flipside - men who fantasize about raping/forcefully seducing in the same totally fantasy way that we're talking about women fantasizing about being raped. How do you feel about that / how do I feel about that? If we're going to absolve women's fantasies (so long as we bother to think about it instead of going "GOD THIS IS SO HAWT" & RAPEY) in this matter, then do we also absolve men their fantasies so long as it stays fantasy? After all, we as human beings feel enough shame about our sexual desires / should we add to it? Whatever your answer is here, would you feel the same way if I asked it about women who fantasize about raping, rather than being raped? Just questions for discussion if you want; I'm not entirely sure what my answers are to them anyway, it's just thoughts I've had on the subject; and really I'm getting off track here so I will wrap it up.
And yes, slash is something else to talk about. I have to wonder about the lack of the female body in porn written for women. I want to think about it as the straight female equivalent of the girl-on-girl porn that your average straight male wanks to: that if a woman is turned on by a guy, then two guys together is even better! and hey, there's no pussy in between them to distract from the hot guy-on-guy. That explanation being the gender flipped version of how I've heard guys explain their love of girl-on-girl. But then this explanation doesn't account for the misogyny that you see in a lot of slash.