My name is an excellent question... that I'm not going to answer. It's nothing personal, it's just that I've been really paranoid lately about keeping my online and real lives separate and while my name is pretty common... how I spell it isn't.

As for pairing wars... I think they get ugly because it gets personally. You care about a pairing, you care about the characters, and it gets harder to play nice when a.) you confused 'I don't like this pairing' with 'I don't like you b.) they confuse 'I don't like this pairing' with 'people who like this pairing are dumb/crazy/wrong' or c.) all of the above.