I didn't know I wasn't the only one who sometimes feels a bit lame for not having more/any live action icons, but I do have this little irrational feeling sometimes -- I don't think I've ever confessed it to anyone -- that my words would somehow look more "meaningful" if I had live action icons. Admittedly, it's a bit ridiculous, but there you go.
You're totally not the only one. I have enough live action icons that I can usually comment with one if someone else is, but I think of people going to check out my userpics and thinking I'm less awesome than they would if I had all live actions icons. Instead they're like, 'wow, this chick seems to like a lot of trashy manga!'
What is wrong with me that all the girl-slash I've written has featured the women as having more of a "discuss women's issues + have sex / have a clandestine fling", whereas a lot of the het I've written features the man and woman in a known relationship?
First of all, I do think there is a element of 'women in a male-dominated society would be more likely to do thus'. Honestly, thought, I've noticed a sort-of similar tendency in that I have yet to write a happy Ino x Sakura fic. (Which, again, it's not like the majority my het fic is happy, but it's it's something to note). With Ino x Sakura, it's alway tragic and sort-of doomed, and usually there are men in those fics being used like poker chips. So am I being sterotypical about the classic dead lesbians?
(So the solution is that you write femmeslash with the couple in a established relationship and I write happy InoxSakura, m'kay?)
And then it's like: where does subversive end and objectification begin, with sexuality?
Where is the line between appreciate and objectification end, almost seems to be the more valid question. Because like you said, neither traditional nor subversive is inherently better, but objectification... it's hard to argue that that's ever a good thing.
It's like, sometimes being hyper-conscious of gender concerns can almost drive you crazy over your own tastes.
Agreed.
(why did no one claim any of the Killerbee or Cloud Nin prompts on the kinkmeme, for instance? it may mean nothing, but it is interesting to note)
That is interesting to note. Speaking personally, besides the time issue, the only reason I wasn't more interested in that prompt was that I couldn't quite figure out who was who (I don't have the names memorized yet). But it is worth thinking about.
We don't have to be progressive and revolutionary in every single thing we like. And even if something is flawed, or traditional, or reveals the flaws of its culture, it can still have its interesting aspects, and it can still be made interesting and worthwhile, for one reason or another.
Word. I think the important thing is to be aware and talking about the ways a work fails or succeed according to our standards and not pretend that it's perfect just because we love it.
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You're totally not the only one. I have enough live action icons that I can usually comment with one if someone else is, but I think of people going to check out my userpics and thinking I'm less awesome than they would if I had all live actions icons. Instead they're like, 'wow, this chick seems to like a lot of trashy manga!'
What is wrong with me that all the girl-slash I've written has featured the women as having more of a "discuss women's issues + have sex / have a clandestine fling", whereas a lot of the het I've written features the man and woman in a known relationship?
First of all, I do think there is a element of 'women in a male-dominated society would be more likely to do thus'. Honestly, thought, I've noticed a sort-of similar tendency in that I have yet to write a happy Ino x Sakura fic. (Which, again, it's not like the majority my het fic is happy, but it's it's something to note). With Ino x Sakura, it's alway tragic and sort-of doomed, and usually there are men in those fics being used like poker chips. So am I being sterotypical about the classic dead lesbians?
(So the solution is that you write femmeslash with the couple in a established relationship and I write happy InoxSakura, m'kay?)
And then it's like: where does subversive end and objectification begin, with sexuality?
Where is the line between appreciate and objectification end, almost seems to be the more valid question. Because like you said, neither traditional nor subversive is inherently better, but objectification... it's hard to argue that that's ever a good thing.
It's like, sometimes being hyper-conscious of gender concerns can almost drive you crazy over your own tastes.
Agreed.
(why did no one claim any of the Killerbee or Cloud Nin prompts on the kinkmeme, for instance? it may mean nothing, but it is interesting to note)
That is interesting to note. Speaking personally, besides the time issue, the only reason I wasn't more interested in that prompt was that I couldn't quite figure out who was who (I don't have the names memorized yet). But it is worth thinking about.
We don't have to be progressive and revolutionary in every single thing we like. And even if something is flawed, or traditional, or reveals the flaws of its culture, it can still have its interesting aspects, and it can still be made interesting and worthwhile, for one reason or another.
Word. I think the important thing is to be aware and talking about the ways a work fails or succeed according to our standards and not pretend that it's perfect just because we love it.