Oh, don't worry, I didn't get the impression you were attacking me at all.
The thing is that, much like I can accept that some romance authors included the rape because it was the only way they could have a woman have sex and without dying (then you have the ones like Bertrice Small, which are pretty much nightmares in the making), I can only really accept it for the time. When the same thing happens NOW, and is used as an excuse for current habits and trends, I can't get behind it at all. The difference is that the romance genre has moved on (fans today tend to be merciless with books that include "forced seduction," outside of the paranormal romance genre, which is one of the reasons I'm EXTREMELY picky about what I'll touch there) and progressed past that, slash/yaoi hasn't, and its fans (the most vocal ones, at least, which are more likely the minority than not, but it's what's SEEN the most)often treat it as the only way, and glorify the idea that it's somehow "better" that it's focused on men, the sexuality of men, and relationships between men. (Which is why, even though I can believe that some approach it as feminists, I can never buy into the arguments regarding slash as feminist, because regardless of the how or why, it's a genre that, by necessity, places the primary focus on men, their relationship, and their sexuality. And lets face it "women getting together to talk about how interesting men are" is one of the oldest patriarchal standards in gender relationships.)
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The thing is that, much like I can accept that some romance authors included the rape because it was the only way they could have a woman have sex and without dying (then you have the ones like Bertrice Small, which are pretty much nightmares in the making), I can only really accept it for the time. When the same thing happens NOW, and is used as an excuse for current habits and trends, I can't get behind it at all. The difference is that the romance genre has moved on (fans today tend to be merciless with books that include "forced seduction," outside of the paranormal romance genre, which is one of the reasons I'm EXTREMELY picky about what I'll touch there) and progressed past that, slash/yaoi hasn't, and its fans (the most vocal ones, at least, which are more likely the minority than not, but it's what's SEEN the most)often treat it as the only way, and glorify the idea that it's somehow "better" that it's focused on men, the sexuality of men, and relationships between men. (Which is why, even though I can believe that some approach it as feminists, I can never buy into the arguments regarding slash as feminist, because regardless of the how or why, it's a genre that, by necessity, places the primary focus on men, their relationship, and their sexuality. And lets face it "women getting together to talk about how interesting men are" is one of the oldest patriarchal standards in gender relationships.)