I agree. Frankly, the love lives you hear the most about are the confessors, in which their love is presented as being dangerous and soul-killing to the men they are interested in. There are relationships where the man has been stripped of his agency, and there are relationships where the woman has been stripped of her power, but there is no middle ground. And while I think Richard and Kahlan are going to buck that trend, it doesn't change the fact that it's been said over and over that Kahlan's desire is a threat to Richard does actually change the subtext that the ladies + sex = DEATH.

(Though this is a glass half full situation, but I have to admit, the way the show presents sex as having potential dangerous repercussions FOR THE MEN is nice. Typically, it's women who bear all the risks of intercourse - I'm thinking specifically of Buffy here.)

That said, I think that Cara is wonderfully helpful for defusing the dangers of female sexuality, in the sense that she freaking owns hers. We've seen her have sex and enjoy it just because, and the fact that one of her hubbies died right after owes much more to the genre of the show than Cara.

So what are YOUR thoughts on this issue?