Yeah, I totally identified with Sarah and then didn't like what it said about me that she needed so much growth and was quite the spoiled girl for a while.

I don't have a huge wealth of past relationships to draw one, but I have the feeling I'd go the other way - not give enough/at all, and that's why we end up breaking up.

And arguing is how Sanzo communicates - I don't think he knows any other way. (And ordering people to do things doesn't count.)