Whoa. This. THIS. Loving this troupe, even though...yeah, it is a male-dominated trope. :/
So far...my favorite character that may embody this trait is Andrew "Ender" Wiggins (main character from Ender's Game). He knew that he understood how to fight in war well, but at the same time he hated himself for the ability. Unfortunately, he got sent into Battle School, even though it is the less of the two evils (the other choice was staying under his power-hungry brothers' control, which could lead to him having to fight his psychopathic brother's manipulations all the time). However, he got manipulated into having to fight from a corner at Battle School all the time, and even had to kill someone in order to survive, even though he felt that he could have not had to go to such dire measures. In the end, the government officials manipulated him into wiping out a major part of the alien society that he was trained to wage war against, and Ender pretty much had to escape and run away with his subordinates because of his ability to fight in war, as well as find ways to protect the last of the alien species he was once fighting against.
I admit, Ender's ability is probably more well-controlled than the other examples listed by everyone else here, so...yeah, he probably might not count. ^^;
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So far...my favorite character that may embody this trait is Andrew "Ender" Wiggins (main character from Ender's Game). He knew that he understood how to fight in war well, but at the same time he hated himself for the ability. Unfortunately, he got sent into Battle School, even though it is the less of the two evils (the other choice was staying under his power-hungry brothers' control, which could lead to him having to fight his psychopathic brother's manipulations all the time). However, he got manipulated into having to fight from a corner at Battle School all the time, and even had to kill someone in order to survive, even though he felt that he could have not had to go to such dire measures. In the end, the government officials manipulated him into wiping out a major part of the alien society that he was trained to wage war against, and Ender pretty much had to escape and run away with his subordinates because of his ability to fight in war, as well as find ways to protect the last of the alien species he was once fighting against.
I admit, Ender's ability is probably more well-controlled than the other examples listed by everyone else here, so...yeah, he probably might not count. ^^;