Well, I don't have much respect for the viewpoint that a shattered teenage girl who's systematically watched nearly all her loved ones die in front of her and now can't bear to lose more is somehow being shocking or unkind in turning a blind eye - her actions may not be morally spotless, but to criticize the text for portraying her as nice after this viewpoint, which implies a moral judgment should be made on her motivations, is something I have a problem with. And being flawed and human is not being unkind. She is not the one doing the crimes, and she agrees that they need to be stopped - but the people who are emotionally important and, in regrettable but human ways, more real to her have an emotional priority at this point in her life, when she has almost no emotional support and has gone through the experience of losing someone - to death or otherwise - too many times to count in the last year.
But maybe I've just done too much rolling my eyes in general lately at fandom disconnecting from and violently turning on Elena in a hot second when they've spent two or three seasons cheerily fangirling the characters and worse characters themselves. It's the old disproportionate double standard response, and even in more thoughtful renditions it tends to put my back up at this point. And 'the victims aren't real' doesn't really work, because the victims are real to the perpetrators, and it's the perpetrators as people who would do these things, to real or fictional women, that we're judging.
Or rather, not judging, just as long as they have a penis.
both of her vampire boyfriends
Also, I'd like to politely ask that you don't support the show's casual usage of rape-culture laden terminology around me. Elena has repeatedly made it clear that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with Damon and wants him to stop his flirting and asks him to get out of her bed and stop pawing through her underwear drawer, etc, etc and to implicitly support his repeated nonconsensual 'claims' over her and the intrinsic sexual threats towards her in such unequivocal statements as "we'll have a vampire girlfriend" and "I'm gonna steal your girl" knowing she's said no already - is pretty upsetting and borderline triggery. It's just an emotional thing for me.
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But maybe I've just done too much rolling my eyes in general lately at fandom disconnecting from and violently turning on Elena in a hot second when they've spent two or three seasons cheerily fangirling the characters and worse characters themselves. It's the old disproportionate double standard response, and even in more thoughtful renditions it tends to put my back up at this point. And 'the victims aren't real' doesn't really work, because the victims are real to the perpetrators, and it's the perpetrators as people who would do these things, to real or fictional women, that we're judging.
Or rather, not judging, just as long as they have a penis.
both of her vampire boyfriends
Also, I'd like to politely ask that you don't support the show's casual usage of rape-culture laden terminology around me. Elena has repeatedly made it clear that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with Damon and wants him to stop his flirting and asks him to get out of her bed and stop pawing through her underwear drawer, etc, etc and to implicitly support his repeated nonconsensual 'claims' over her and the intrinsic sexual threats towards her in such unequivocal statements as "we'll have a vampire girlfriend" and "I'm gonna steal your girl" knowing she's said no already - is pretty upsetting and borderline triggery. It's just an emotional thing for me.