I was reading romance novels at age 10, which makes it a little hilarious that I'm a 25yo virgin...maybe too much time thinking about it in theory took away the urge IRL. *g*
I could buy regency romance heroines being clueless virgins since sex ed and the interwebs weren't around in those days, but what gets my goat is how after the first encounter (which is 99% of the time a magical, transcendental and life-defining experience of pure sublime ecstasy), they're transformed from utter n00bs to experienced pros.
The authors want to have it both ways - get their virginity fetish on and then once that element's dispensed with, these chicks are raring to go and blindsiding the hero with their seductive techniques and even a little kinky and...not that I'm against this at all, obv, but it's so disingenuous to have the heroine go from zero to a hundred in a heartbeat.
Um, I can't find a way to articulate what it is that feels so wrong to me here, but there you go. I guess it seems like denying the women the ability to express or hell, simply experience desire prior to the hero unlocking her chastity belt and validating her character's right to feel and act on lust? But only with him, mind!
Like, god forbid her lips have touched another man's prior to Lord One-and-Only, Earl of True Love, entering her life, but once they've connected, then BAM, she instantly has all these years of entirely natural sexual needs that she's only now allowed to explore and the experience that would normally occur through previous romantic encounters, 'coz it's too boring for the author to work on their sex life realistically if the woman actually had no idea what she was doing as originally introduced. only acknowledging previous sexual encounters would make her a slut because she should've known she'd meet Mr Right at this appointed time and been 'saving herself' for him accordingly
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I could buy regency romance heroines being clueless virgins since sex ed and the interwebs weren't around in those days, but what gets my goat is how after the first encounter (which is 99% of the time a magical, transcendental and life-defining experience of pure sublime ecstasy), they're transformed from utter n00bs to experienced pros.
The authors want to have it both ways - get their virginity fetish on and then once that element's dispensed with, these chicks are raring to go and blindsiding the hero with their seductive techniques and even a little kinky and...not that I'm against this at all, obv, but it's so disingenuous to have the heroine go from zero to a hundred in a heartbeat.
Um, I can't find a way to articulate what it is that feels so wrong to me here, but there you go. I guess it seems like denying the women the ability to express or hell, simply experience desire prior to the hero unlocking her chastity belt and validating her character's right to feel and act on lust? But only with him, mind!
Like, god forbid her lips have touched another man's prior to Lord One-and-Only, Earl of True Love, entering her life, but once they've connected, then BAM, she instantly has all these years of entirely natural sexual needs that she's only now allowed to explore and the experience that would normally occur through previous romantic encounters, 'coz it's too boring for the author to work on their sex life realistically if the woman actually had no idea what she was doing as originally introduced.
only acknowledging previous sexual encounters would make her a slut because she should've known she'd meet Mr Right at this appointed time and been 'saving herself' for him accordinglyIDK, IDK, what are words even.