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Abso-fucking-lutely.
There are so many things wrong with the pressure to get married and have kids - first, society is mandating one way to live a happy, successful life; secondly, we don't need more people on the planet; thirdly, a kid is a huge investment of time and energy that no everyone wants to make and forcing them to make it is just going to screw up their children.
For years I said I didn't want kids and I am so grateful that no one ever told me 'Oh, you'll change your mind.' Sure, I did, but it wasn't written in stone that I would. And no one should think about what they do or don't want and be told that they'll change their mind or see the light or that they're being selfish for not picking one specific option.
It's not selfish to not create a child that isn't wanted. (Double negative, I know.)
And having a kid just so someone will take care of you when you're old is a terrible reason to have children and a rationalization that comes up a lot.
Abso-fucking-lutely.
There are so many things wrong with the pressure to get married and have kids - first, society is mandating one way to live a happy, successful life; secondly, we don't need more people on the planet; thirdly, a kid is a huge investment of time and energy that no everyone wants to make and forcing them to make it is just going to screw up their children.
For years I said I didn't want kids and I am so grateful that no one ever told me 'Oh, you'll change your mind.' Sure, I did, but it wasn't written in stone that I would. And no one should think about what they do or don't want and be told that they'll change their mind or see the light or that they're being selfish for not picking one specific option.
It's not selfish to not create a child that isn't wanted. (Double negative, I know.)
And having a kid just so someone will take care of you when you're old is a terrible reason to have children and a rationalization that comes up a lot.