The only way this could possibly be fair is if the father can be charged for not making every effort possible to ensure the mother is in prime gestation mode -- she can't very well rub her own feet, or go for midnight ice cream and folic acid runs in her condition, can she?

Actually, that'd be just as shitty to the supportive fathers who are just as traumatized. Hmm.

Something that is in their control: Ensuring that every hospital provides top-of-the-line prenatal care for everyone, and free delivery. Which they are actively fighting.