I'm So Tired Of Being Tired

[redbrunja]

I swear, right now, I want to quit fandom.

No, there is nothing hugely dramatic prompting this. I am just so, so weary of the ingrained sexism and the fandom drama and the female character hate and the shipping wars.

I feel like declaring that after July, I'm going to go back to western tv and liveaction fandoms, because when two very different mangakas annoy me in exactly the same way in one fucking evening, and my own over-investment in a pairing + spoilers + the damn fandom itself is threatening to ruin the show that ruined me for anime....

Something is very wrong here.

(And then I remember that my previous happy skippy live action comedy show is killing my love, as is my current sci-fi drama, my last sci-fi drama betrayed me horribly, and my last girl-centric show was torturous near the end, and I realize I'm going to need to go back to reading books and give myself time to let the wounds heal.)

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[nephthysmoon.livejournal.com]

But then there is Book!Fandom, which I blame my involvement for my involvement in fandom. Face it, if you're inclined towards fandoms, it will be difficult to find something to do that has no fandom - and do you really want to get into something (a book, TV show or whatever) that is so bad that you want nothing to do with its fandom because you don't like it enough?

Actually, in all seriousness, I know what you mean.

The only fandom I have that regularly pisses me off is the Avatar fandom, and I have to remind myself that being about 10 to 12 years older than the average fan has a lot to do with that. The best thing I can think of for avoiding fandoms is stick to the people you already know in it that aren't driving you nuts.

I don't belong to boards for most of my fandoms (dotmoon is multi-fandom, after all, and I can discuss nearly anything I want to there) because of that. I try to avoid most communities on LJ unless I know the maintainer or the primary focus is on fanfic/fanart. For me, that is the only way to keep myself sane in an increasingly annoying world of fandom.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

Oh, I was fandoming before I knew what fandoms were, which basically means I'm fucked now.

And I have a lot of fandom control techniques right now, it's just... it's hard when both the fandom and the canon are annoying you.

As for Avatar fandom: word. There is a reason I'm not going to any of the main comms right now.