Fail, Slash Fangirls, Fail

[redbrunja]

You know what I keep hearing? What pisses me off like no other?

The slasher pov that it is impossible to write a male/female relationship that is equal.

Fuck that.

If you want to write about boys sexing each other, fine, but don't flat-out state that it is impossible for a fictionally heterosexual relationship to ever be equal, as well as implying that every single real world straight relationship is inequal to boot.

Comments

[qualapec.livejournal.com]

There are times where I could understand that analysis, but I think there are a LOT of factors that go into how a girl looks at het relationships. What about girls and boys raised by single fathers/mothers? They don't become asexual, so the connection is hardly 100% Also, I think that point of view completely undermines the gender-model parent; if the mother tells a girl how smart and beautiful she is, you're saying it's completely useless if the father is a douche?

I can see a connection between our opposite-sex parent and how we look at the opposite gender...because that's our first interaction with the opposite gender. I think it's a matter of perspective, of understanding that not ALL men are jerks.

[meitah.livejournal.com]

Girls raised by single mothers are more likely to have more severe paternal abandonment issues because their fathers really have effectively abandoned them.

About the gender-model parent- BOTH parents effect the child's view of gender norms and self-worth, by both their absence and presence. A douche-y father has just as much affect on a daughter as a supportive mother, and vice versa.

Indeed, people do need to understand that not all men are jerks. Unfortunately, not everyone is able or willing to move past childhood issues.