In Which I Am A Selfish Bitch

[redbrunja]

I hate having a roommate.

I hate it so much.

I have spent my entire life living with other people and I am so damn tired of it. I just want my own place.

(And no, nothing in particular prompted this.)

Comments

[fairest1.livejournal.com]

Ditto. Everything I've heard about roommates sounds like they'd actually be worse than living with my family, and this is saying something.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

Well, there are a lot of variables that go into that calculation. I really enjoyed living with my mom and we had a lot of fun together (way more than I have with my roommate) but on the other hand, my roommate has no say in what I eat, how late I stay up, or anything of that sort, which isn't true with family.

[castalyne.livejournal.com]

I admit that to some extent I liked living with room mates, but since I've been living on my own for a little while now, it's nice being able to send my friends home at the end of the day. I don't really think it's a selfish thing either, we all need our own space from time to time.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

That's it exactly. I'm really ready for my own space.

[mollivanders.livejournal.com]

I would really like my own place too. Roommates are okay but somehow you never get your own space.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

Exactly.

[just-shai.livejournal.com]

I live with my brother and one of my best friends, leavealltherest. This is after 25 years of some very odd and stressful living situations. I'm comfortable with them as roommates, because I find it very easy to be honest with them, and have learned how to communicate without steamrolling feelings. It helps that we all have our hermit-modes and can go several hours without even seeing each other.

When I left behind a truly HORRIBLE situation in 2005, I thought I'd never have roommates again. But I'm really happy with this one. YMMV.

(And PolyFamilies has helped SO MUCH.)

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

See, I think if my roommate had a hermit mode, it would be a bit easier to live with her.

And while I may learn to love living with people later, after this living situation, I definitely need some solo housing for a bit.

[nocturnalrites.livejournal.com]

My (second and current) husband remains the only person I've been able to live with without wanting to kill. In fact, I quite like living with him. Other than him? Bah, forget it. At their best, you're arguing over who cleaned/didn't clean the bathroom/kitchen/living areas, who ate/didn't eat whatever was in the fridge (or having to label everything you buy and/or refrigerator shelves). And then there's the roommates who pursue amorous activities in public areas. Granted, I'm no prude, but I prefer performances with people I actually want to *see naked*, thanks. ;)

Any chance you can investigate a really, really tiny efficiency? I did that during graduate school, and despite the lack of space (and the cockroaches after the really slobby neighbors moved out) it was still so, SO much better than roommating.

*offers sympathetic pats*

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

I did consider an efficiency, but at this point, I think the best thing to do is save my pennies. Within a year I should be able to afford a nice studio or a small one bedroom, and frankly, moving was so damn hellish that I don't want to do it again unless I was moving to someplace I really, really liked.

[starandvine.livejournal.com]

Know what you mean. I've shared a dorm, and a couple of apartments, with different people over the years, and while the apartments were certainly easier (though not perfect), that was mostly because I really lucked out on roommates and we were completely understanding about staying out of each other's way. Now I'm living with my parents and I NEED TO GET MY OWN PLACE.

If it makes you feel any better at all, an old friend of mine wanted to get ready for work in the morning and her roommate had removed the shower head and curtain before she got in the bathroom so she couldn't shower (the roommate was mad at her for having to move away). It can always be worse, apparently.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

It really always can. And seriously? Yeah, because removing the shower is going to keep the roommate around. *snort*

[tigerpetals.livejournal.com]

So. much. empathy.

I live with my parents and have had to share a room with my sister who always complains about my having a lot of books and they all know it's easy to wake me up but it doesn't make them any quieter.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

Ugh, yeah. It gets really frustrating when all you want to do is sleep and the microwave is going and the tv's on, you know?